5 Things I love about living in Edinburgh

5 Things I love about living in Edinburgh

 

I still can’t believe that it’s been two weeks since I moved to Scotland. Even saying the words feels a little like playing make-belief with friends. But then I walk outside into the chilly afternoon, and find myself on cobbled streets, surrounded by Georgian builds and there…the castle looming over the city and it all starts to feel real.

People often like to talk about Paris as the romantic capital of the world, but I think the more discerning vagabond will see that Edinburgh can match and raise Paris in terms of romance. And of course, with it being Valentine’s Day today, I have romance on my mind. Indeed, my romantic affair with this city that managed to drag me across 14,000kms in 4 months flat.¬†dugald-stewart-monument.jpg

The second time I visited Edinburgh was in October, 2016. Needless to say I fell madly in love. It might have been the rose-coloured honeymoon phase of the romance, as I explored the city, a lone intrepid traveller discovering the secret dips and curves of her lover. Now, 4 months on and living in the city, the honeymoon romance has faded to reality and I can still say that I am in love with this city, for many reasons, and reasons that go beyond the surface level “lust” of first love that I experienced when I visited in the autumn.

As the City teeters between the freezing clutches of winter, and the warmer embrace of spring, I have been able to learn a little more about what makes Scotland such an incredible country to live in – despite the weather.

5. What does the weather matter when you can order everything online?

From alcohol, to your groceries, from household items like food processors to bedding, you can find everything you desire online and can either mark it as a click and collect, or delivery. And some deliveries can be made the same day. Whilst I had some awful experiences that I am still sorting out with Tesco, I’ve found Argos and it’s delivery system to be absolutely flawless. I’ve managed to stock my entire kitchen without ever having to leave my home and cart things back on the bus. Convenience in a pinch for those who are newly moved to a city – especially in the middle of winter.

4. Public Transport is the bomb

Who needs a car when the buses pass by every 10 to 15 minutes? And not only that, with apps like Lothian Buses¬†and m-tickets¬†you don’t need to worry about pesky change and tickets. Because you need to have the correct change on the buses, it can get a bit tricky if you normally only function with card (I rarely carry cash unless I’m going to a dinner with friends). The Lothian Buses app will tell you exactly how to get from point A to point B in the city, including exactly when you need to leave the house to make it to the bus port on time to jump onto your bus. This means lower wait times out in the cold, and a smoother transport door to door, even for those of you who don’t know the city. With m-tickets, you can purchase your tickets online, and the best bit is that all tickets, no matter where you are going within the city are¬†¬£1.60. An all day ticket is¬†¬£4. Cheap, efficient and clean. Oh, and the buses also have free wifi so no long, boring transits. Not that any transit is long here which brings me to…

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…3. Everything in this City looks a lot closer than it appears on maps!

Most things are within a 15 to 20 minute, and that’s a big maximum. To get from my place in Lauriston in the Old Town to Princes Street in the New Town on the other side of the city is about a 10 minute brisk walk. You can saunter down, since it’s a beautiful stroll and that will take you to about 15 minutes before you hit the main shopping and dining district. Mind you, to get to Grassmarket from my place it’s a casual 5 minute brisk walk. And the scenery definitely keeps the walk interesting with old buildings and the castle from every angle available as you make your way around the city.

2. Art, art, art and all free

This might not mean much but when you’re a lover of the arts and history, finding that you live in a city where it’s all free is like walking into a candy store as a kid and being told you can have anything you want, no restrictions. I can spend days in the museums here, especially since most of the exhibitions are free as well. And not only that, a lot of movies are filmed here, so that makes life in Edinburgh even more exciting. Oh, and there are hundreds of theatres dotted all over the city, so there is bound to be something to peak your interest, and most of the shows are decently priced as well. Moving from a culture that was more focused on footy and beers, and outdoor sports, to one that values drama, theatre and the arts is a real coo. I find myself discussing intricacies of various movements or overhearing political discourse on the streets and smile. It’s not as wanky as it sounds, I promise. These folk still know how to get down and dirty in a rugby game. Speaking of which, the amount of ex-rugby players I have met is incredible – and all of them are highly intellectual as well since I’ve met them at various business meetings.

1. The produce is incredible

If you’re a foodie like me, Edinburgh is the place to be. We have a ridiculous amount of Michelin Star rest16711672_10155125098036554_440972962125385271_naurants here in this tiny city that will have you drooling at sight of their menus. But you don’t have to wander far if you want a great bite to eat. You can make it in your own home with Edinburgh Artisan Food delivering a range of fresh produce from local producers, direct to your door. I can’t sing their praises enough, with fantastic customer service, impeccable produce and great prices. There really is no excuse not to eat healthy and local here. For someone like me who loves exploring with local tastes and flavours, I’ve managed to whip up some excellent meals with a basickitchen, which again speaks highly of the quality of the produce that is sold here.

Another thing that I negated to mention is the people. The Scots are by far some of the most helpful, friendliest and nicest people, making a massive transition like moving from a different culture and country something that has been easier to do that it might have otherwise been.

Starting afresh

Starting afresh

As I craned my neck, sprawled across the three central seats on the almost empty airplane, I hoped the guy sitting at the window cross the aisle didn’t think I was checking him out. I’d been twisting and turning trying to see out the window for awhile, and he kept catching my eye. Awkward. I really just wanted a glimpse of where I was about to land.

And it wasn’t until I caught that first hint of green and grey out the tiny oval window that it dawned on me that I had no return ticket booked. Rationally, I knew I could¬†easily book a return ticket to Australia any time I wanted, but the fact that there was no return date, and that my landing card said “visit period: 2 years” finally made the pieces click.

Never-mind that I’d spent the previous two weeks saying goodbyes to friends and family, selling everything in my house, every piece of furniture and homeware that I’d painstakingly selected, ruthlessly disposed of in any way I could. None of it had felt like it was real until that moment.

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Landed! Exhausted and excited.

I was caught between a sense of dread, excitement and panic. I realised I must be completely mental moving to a country where I not only didn’t know anyone, but also had no job and no family close by. This was the first time in my adult life that I was without work; I had been working since I was sixteen and had never had a period where I was transitioning between jobs. And now I was moving country during a “transition” period with nothing lined up. Oh…and I made the move with two cats, just to complicate things. I’ve always loved challenges and adventures, but for some reason this felt like I was jumping out of a plane without having checked whether the backpack I was wearing really did have a parachute.

The way around the mounting panic? I kept telling myself I’m just here on a long holiday. It seemed to ease the constriction in my throat just enough so that I could breath again. The only way out of the panic was through it, so that’s what I did. One step, then another, one foot, then the next. I tried not to think beyond the next thing I had to do. Like hit the loo before the plane began its descent, then of course I needed to make sure I had my new Bose headphones properly stored, and I had to check that I had all my essentials, like my passport and visa before I got off the plane. It wasn’t until I was pressing my index finger onto the electronic scanner at¬†Border Control, and explaining that I was going to be spending the next two years travelling and working in Scotland, that I began to freak out a little again. Thankfully my freak outs are very calm and placid events (externally). No one can really tell on the outside that inside I’m a puddle of twitching nerves and irregular heartbeats.

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View to The Meadows from my street.

The next few hours were filled with chores, signing leases, organising food, and finally checking out the place I’d blindly agreed to lease for 12 months. The first surprise was that it was a basement flat. The last time I had been¬†in Edinburgh, the one thing I had told myself was that I could never imagine living in one of those tiny places beneath the buildings, so it was pretty ironic to find myself navigating the stairs with my suitcase and hand luggage towards a¬†basement flat. The location however is¬†excellent; a ten minute hike up to Grassmarket and an easy stroll down the road to The Meadows.¬†Some things struck me as exceedingly odd – such as¬†carpet in the entry hallway. Especially cream coloured carpet when you live in a country where it rains most of the time.

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View from my bedroom window. Blue skies and greenery!

And then trying to figure out the heating system in a house that felt like the inside of an ice cream truck was another adventure. Gas meters aren’t billed like they do in Australia…they come with a top up card that you need to take with you to top up at PayPoint locations around the city.

Torn between abject exhaustion, and excitement, as well as a continuous litany¬†“what the f**k” have I done” on repeat in my head, I made my way through the house and tried to take everything in my stride. Thankfully, whilst the front of the house might be below street level, my bedroom is at ground level looking out onto¬†the garden. But there is no mesh on the window…on any of the windows…The bathroom and shower were much smaller than I expected from the photos, but the kitchen was a decent size.

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A welcome to Edinburgh present from the lovely folk at Edinburgh Artisan Food.

Then I realised¬†there was¬†nothing in the kitchen – no pots, pans, glasses, cups, cutting boards or knives. I was, maybe stupidly, planning on cooking my first meal in the house that evening, and had an order of groceries to be¬†delivered later that afternoon.¬†But the address I had been given wasn’t quite right and the deliveries kept going to my neighbours who weren’t pleased by the constant interruptions. On and on it went, with ups and downs and sideway slides throughout the day and that was just in the first six hours of landing.

My stomach, shoulders and back were in knots as well, because I had had no contact from the agnecy who were importing my cats to Scotland. And I was having issues with my phone, so had spent the next morning after I had landed running around trying to sort out internet access and a local number. I had no idea how much we rely on our smartphones until I landed and found myself without access to emails, and documents that were stored on my phone.

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I had the cats’ gear ready before I’d even sorted out my own bedroom. Priorities, right?

It’s only now, three days later with the cats happily settled in, that I’m finally begin to find my feet¬†and make this space my own. Despite the load of extra expenses, and the ups and downs, I’ve been able to take things in my stride by reminding myself that there is plenty of time¬†ahead, that I need to enjoy the experience, and enjoy the journey. Writing this has been a good reminder of why I decided to do this in the first place. Being an expat puts you out of your comfort zone, even when you’re moving to a place where the culture is very similar to your own. I decided to make this move because I wanted a challenge, I wanted a change. Being a stranger in a strange land isn’t new, but it is a new experience doing it without my family nearby, and without any close support system where I am. I wanted to put myself in a situation that would test my character, that would help me grow, learn and become someone who is open, accepting and kind in a world that is currently¬†demonstrating the opposite. I wanted to give myself the space, the time and the opportunity to see who I am now, and to figure out who I want to be, who I can be on my own.

So, here’s to new beginnings, to learning acceptance and surrender, to being open to new experiences, to meeting new people and most of all, here’s to growing into the best version of the person I can be someone.

The day is finally here!

The day is finally here!

It’s been a surreal journey so far. Whilst I’ve been busy putting things on gumtree, and living on a fur throw on my living room floor, eating take out most nights, I still haven’t fully come to terms with the fact that I’m leaving the country for two years – with nothing more than two cats and one 30kg¬†suitcase.

The reality still hasn’t quite hit, despite spending my last night in my apartment on an air mattress, with two cat crates and nothing more. As I wait for my landlord to pick up my keys with my suitcase, I’m still not entirely wanting to face the reality of good bye.

In fact, it’s not really good bye, more a ‘see you later’ but still, the seeing will now be down through Skype and FaceTime and Facebook instead of face-to-face…with an eight hour time lapse. I’m still in some sort of daze as the reality approaches. I’m excited, and I know I’m following my inner guidance and doing the right thing, but I’m still scared.

And don’t they say, every day, do one thing that scares you? I guess it had been so long since I’d willingly put myself in such a challenging position, I’m still not fully comprehending the immensity of my decision and what’s coming up. I don’t think it will hit me until I’m in the airport. Perhaps it won’t really hit until I’m on the plane.

The last time I migrated I was 11 years old and all the big decisions were left to my parents. This time I’m 30 (almost 31) and all the big decisions are left solely to me – where to work, how to live, how to create the best version of myself. There are so many opportunities when you consciously make such massive changes in your life, when you consciously embrace the opportunities for growth that the Universe yields to you. But this doesn’t mean that it’s easy, or that you aren’t going to be petrified along the way. My stomach is in knots, and I’m nauseous – both through excitement and sadness. It’s fantastic to be heading to a new life, but I’m also mourning the ones that will be left behind.

And of course it’s not like I won’t see them again, but I’ve moved around enough in my life to know that people are constantly changing, and that the place you had once will not be there when you move. So coming to terms with letting go of the way some relationships are, and allowing them to become whatever they are meant to be, is another hard pill to swallow at this point.

But here I am, writing my last post before stepping on a plane. The next post will be from the other side of the world. Now…isn’t that going to be something!

Imbolc and new beginnings

Imbolc and new beginnings

27d69ff85bbd9861e557cbe2e1363324.jpgImbolc (pronounced EE-MOLG) is one of the Celt’s four fire festivals and commemorates the change of seasons from winter to spring. The 2nd of February is also known as Candlemas and Brigid’s Day. This Sabbath¬†celebrates the first signs of spring, and the successful passing of winter. It’s a day when the ancient Celts honoured the rebirth of the Sun, and celebrated the goddess Brigid who¬†overseas¬†poetry, healing, smithcraft and midwifery. It’s a celebration of new beginnings, a rebirth from winter to spring.

In Scotland, this tradition is still celebrated openly, with the Snowdrop Festival and other ways to commemorate the passing of winter, and the first signs of spring. The Scottish Storytelling Centre is even hosting an event in honour of Brigid, retelling ancient tales of the goddess and saint through ceilidh and music. So why am I talking about an ancient pagan festival? images

Well, because I think small synchronicities can have a deeper meaning, and this festival and the day on which it falls has special significance for me. It’s the day I land in Scotland to begin a new life. It could just be some coincidence that I land in my new home on the day that has traditionally been about new beginnings, but I have learned that there are no such things as coincidences. It two seemingly unconnected events have some significance for you, then the synchronicity has something to tell you, something to teach you. For me, the ¬†fact that I am beginning my new life on the day of the traditional start of spring is a good sign.

Carl Jung first explained the concept of ‘synchronicity‘ as events which¬†seem to have no causal relationship to each other, and yet appear to be meaningfully related. This concept was coined when¬†Jung’s patient spoke¬†of her dream of a Golden Scarab, and the next moment a¬†Golden Scarab (rare for that part of the world) knock into his psychotherapy office window during their session together. We have all experienced such events that brings to questbrett-cole-monteverde-00319_mediumion: is the relationship between these two events random, or is there a greater, hidden power at play here.¬†The concept of synchronicity, and the resulting powerful archetypal changes these series of random events could bring, fascinated Carl Jung to the point he even wrote a book on the principle,¬†Synchronicity: An Acasual¬†Connecting Principle.

Jung¬†was convinced synchronistic events could reveal an underlying unity of mind and matter, of subjective and objective realities. It is interesting to note that Jung’s fascination with physics began very early in his career after a series of dinners with¬†Albert Einstein. It was these discussions that influences his own theory on psychic synchronicity. As progress is made in terms of quantum physics and our understanding of how our perception influences and changes our experience of our reality, it becomes more important as enlightened beings in an interconnected Universe to pay attention to e6d46090cb2c85c6cd81120513e57552synchronicities and coincidences and the meanings these have for ourselves.

So landing in Scotland on Imbolc to me gives me hope that the seeds of dreams I’ve
planted for the future have been taking root, and that the new cycle ahead will be one of prosperity and growth for me. After the winter of the last few years, this new beginning makes me hopeful there is the whisper of spring around the corner.

 

 

 

 

 

New year, new cycle, new me

New year, new cycle, new me

For those of you who know a little about numerology, you might have heard that last year we were in a Universal 9 year (2+0+1+6 = 9). This means the year was focused a lot on bringing up issues, and forcing us to let go of things that no longer served our highest good.

I don’t think there was any person that I spoke to that wasn’t battered and bruised, and limping across the finish line of 2016. We lost incredible souls, and we were put through the wringer, personally and globally on a political stage. A 9 year is focused a lot on bringing up the darkness¬†so that we can shine the light on it – to heal or let go.

Standing on the threshold of a New Year, and a new Universal cycle (2+0+1+7 = 1) I am certainly embracing all that is new. As the end of the year rolled around, things changed drastically. I had no idea I would be where I am standing now. Thinking back to the beginning of 2016, I am still trying to process how I got here. Universal 1 years are all about  new beginnings, sowing the seeds of what we want our future to look like, and planning ahead for the next 9 year cycle, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically.

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My living room has never been so bare!

To say it’s been an incredible whirlwind journey of trust and faith is an understatement. I am letting go of everything as we move into a new year, friendship, a home, a career, my family and support networks, and moving across the world to start afresh.

I’ve been asked why a million times, and I’ve never fully been able to articulate why sometime between¬†October and¬†December, I not only decided to move to Scotland, but everything possible has fallen in place to facilitate that move in the easiest and smoothest way imaginable.

All I can really say is, that when I went there in October, I felt a deeper call, a soul urging to take a leap of faith and move. Whether this will be the best two years of my life, or some of the most challenging – or more likely a combination of both – is yet to be seen, but it’s a calling I wasn’t able to ignore. I can’t rationally explain to others why this feels right, or why I’m leaving security and family to travel alone to a foreign land, other than to say that this is something I have to do for myself, for my soul, and that it’s as aligned to a higher calling as I’ve ever had.

Trusting that everything is working out has been a major lesson in itself, but I’ve certainly come a long way from control to trust to make this shift. I can almost feel the components of my life shifting and falling into place as I take action here and there, inspired by something outside – or perhaps more accurately deep inside – myself.

So, as I begin this journey I hope to share what I learn, and what I discover by being a true soulful vagabond.

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Edinburgh skyline from Calton Hill.

 

Why fasting is good for your physical and spiritual wellbeing

I recently completed a juice cleanse from¬†Pure Glow Cleanse¬†and I can’t stop waxing lyrical about it. It was my second cleanse with Pure Glow, and it’s something that I highly recommend for those of you who¬†have been interested in it. Of course, each cleanse should be undertaken after consultation with youIMG_6445r own physician if you have any health concerns.

So, what is a juice cleanse?

First, a proper juice cleanse or fast should be well researched before it’s undertaken. The reason I love Pure Glow Cleanse is that their juices¬†are organic, cold-pressed, and home delivered within the Perth Metro area, making it convenient and time-efficient for the¬†busy entrepreneur.

Pure Glow Cleanse juices are not packed full of sugars, and use seasonal produce to ensure the most delicious and nutrient dense juices to cleansers. And I’m not any form of benefit to say this!

There are of course plenty of juicing companies out there specialising in juice cleanses, so you can do your own research and even make your own juices if you have the time and want to put in the effort.

How does a juice cleanse work?

For me it started with a week of preparation. I cut out the processed sugars (not that I have many), caffeine and alcohol. I already avoid gluten and lactose so there wasn’t any change there. The reason for this is that in my experience a cold-turkey detox can result in a migraine and serious withdrawals if you’re a caffeine addict and if you’ve been eating lots of¬†processed foods for awhile.

Once you’re eating a fairly clean diet, a juice cleanse is a walk in the park. With Pure Glow this means drinking 6 juices each day for 3 days, without any other food. Yes, you miss chewing! But the cleanse is worth the effort.

I also recommend taking a social media detox at the same time, because I was surprisIMG_6471ed by the amount of food porn posts all over my Instagram and Facebook accounts – which made not eating even harder, though I wasn’t feeling hungry – I think a big part of appetite involves eating with your eyes!!

I did my cleanse over the weekend, which gave me the added bonus of being able to wrap my cleanse with some healthy mindfulness techniques. It also inspired me to get the week started on a healthy note, with Sunday spent preparing some healthy meals for the week ahead.

Physical benefits of a cleanse

Some might question why or how not eating can be good for you – but don’t forget that these cleanses are packed full of nutrient rich juices – with lots of veggies and less sugar-dense fruit, unlike store bought “juices”.

A cleanse encourages a balance of the flora in your gut. There are two types of bacteria in you bowels, each with their own benefits. Firmecutes are linked with weight gain whilst Bacteroidetes are linked with leaner body compositions. Research shows that juice cleanses can reduce the Firmecutes and increase the Bacteroidetes in your gut.

Cleanses give your digestive system a break. Your digestive system uses approximately 50% of your body’s energy, so this gives your body the energy to focus on other important things, like getting rid of toxin build up and allowing your gut to heal, especially when you suffer from leaky gut. It also helps rest the liver which works overtime to detox the many toxins we usually consume on a daily basis.

Going on a juice cleanse helps you break the unhealthy cravings you may have developed, resetting your system and turning you towards more sustainable eating habits. It also helps reset your appetite. We eat portions that are far too large for the amount of energy we normally exert. A juice cleanse allows our appetite to reset to it’s natural state, and being more mindful of what we’re consuming, we realise when we’re full quicker and reset our eating habits to fit this.

Surprisingly for some, juice cleanses actually help you feel more energised. Once you get over the first day’s adjustment period, you gain a certain level of mental clarity and extra energy consuming these natural, organic juices.

Since my last juice, sipped gently over a couple of hours, began at 7pm, usually by 9pm I was ready for bed. The early nights also gave me the added bonus of catching up on some much needed sleep, which adds to healthy weight loss, better concentration and an improved immune health. IMG_6448

Emotional and spiritual benefits of a cleanse

On the emotional front, doing the cleanse over the weekend gave me the opportunity to rest and recharge mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Given that most of my social interactions are centered around food or drinks Рcatching up for lunch, dinner or a glass of wine! Рbeing on the juice cleanse was a good excuse to say no to social invitations and take some timeout.

Without the extra time for food preparation, or the need to head to my next social engagement, I had the opportunity to spend time with myself, checking in on my mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. That’s a lot of extra time for myself that I wouldn’t normally have.

Being on the cleanse gave me the opportunity to slow down. I used the extra time I had to journal, clean out my closet and space of things that no longer resonated for me or I no longer needed, as well as clear the space and detox my emotional / mental processes.¬†I had extra time to devote to my meditation practice, finding greater clarity to connect inward. It also afforded me the opportunity of detoxing emotionally as well as physically, letting go of old baggage that I hadn’t realised I was still carrying with me.

 

The health benefits of forgiveness

The health benefits of forgiveness

We’ve all been hurt at some point or another by the people we care about. Sometimes the betrayal is so big it breaks the relationship completely. We can hold onto the resentment and grudge from these events in our lives for years,¬†wrapping ourselves up in a self-righteous blanket. In our competitive society, the act of forgiveness is often seen as a weakness – it’s often easier to stigmatize or denigrate our perceived enemies rather than forgive them.44c9b3f93ce7e10411546972093455cd

We don’t want to relinquish the upper hand by forgiving, so we hold on to our grudges – to personal detriment.¬†Research shows that holding on to grudges, and unforgiveness,¬†where the offended person maintains their anger, hostility, resentment actually leads to higher stress levels. As we know, stress has many negative impacts on our health.

A study analysed the mental and physical health of 148 young adults, showing a correlation between high stress levels and increased health issues, but also shows that where people showed forgiveness, the connection between stress and mental illness practically disappeared.

So let’s start by looking at what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. Forgiveness is an active process where you make a conscious decision to let go of negative feelings, whether or not someone has asked for, or deserves the forgiveness.67bb3ef14852862a2c06b4db302082cb

This doesn’t mean that you justify what the other person did, or that you accept it or condone their actions. It means that you let go of power that action has on your life from this moment forward.¬†Forgiveness doesn’t mean becoming best-buddies with the person who wronged, or that you need to maintain a relationship with this person. It’s not saying that what happened was okay, or that you accept what happened was right, or deserved. Instead, the act of forgiveness is accepting what happened,¬†instead of ruminating on what should have or could have happened. Forgiveness is an active step forward into the present moment, instead of being chained to the past.

It’s important as well to realise that forgiveness doesn’t happen quickly for most of us. We need to deal with the anger and shock that comes with an act of betrayal. It’s important not to push aside our negative emotions and shoot for forgiveness straight away.

It’s also important that you forgive yourself instead of constantly reliving your mistakes or incessantly punishing yourself for your wrong-doings. Self-forgiveness is as important as forgiving others. We all make mistakes and it’s important to learn from our mistakes, without punishing ourselves for it.¬†c8006861d7852f33f9432c1cd954ef37

When we make the conscious decision to forgive we put ourselves in a position to begin a new journey that goes from healing to recovery to, finally, peace. Forgiveness is a conscious decision to move away from the pain, hurt and anger that causes a stress response in our body, affecting our mental and physical wellbeing.

So how can we forgive? The Mayo Clinic offers some good advice:

  • Try looking at the situation from the other person’s point of view.
  • Ask yourself why this person may have behaved the way they did. Perhaps if you¬†had been facing the same circumstances, you may have done something similar?
  • Reflect on the times when you’ve hurt others and have been shown forgiveness.
  • Acknowledge that forgiveness is a process and that you may revisit the issue over and over again, and need to forgive the same incident that happened over and again until it no longer has a hold on you.

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One method that really helped me forgive someone was journaling. Here’s some tips on how to forgive using the journaling method I used.

  • Sit in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and grab a pen and paper.
  • Address the letter to the person who has hurt you and beginning writing. Describe the situation, write your feelings, allow yourself to feel what you’re writing.
  • Let yourself cry, scream, let it all out as you journal your letter to this person. You’re NOT going to send this letter. You just need to get the emotions onto the paper.
  • Once you are done, re-read the letter to yourself.
  • Now, get up and move to somewhere this person has perhaps sat in your house. Sit there and picture yourself in their shoes. Picture yourself as them, receiving this letter and read the letter again, from their point of view.
  • Now, pen a response to yourself from their point of view. This is a powerful exercise that is not about condoning their actions, or justifying their actions, but about purging the pus from the wound the action caused, and cleaning it out so that you can heal.