Today is a special day for me…it’s the day I leave behind another decade and start a new one. It’s my 30th birthday.
Coming up to this milestone made me contemplate the concept of ageing and growing up. As a society we seem to have such an aversion to growing older. People are obsessed with getting rid of wrinkles and covering up their grey hairs. Everyone I know has asked me how I feel about leaving my 20s and entering my 30s, with an almost earnest expectation that my anwer will be that I’m dreading the prospect.
My response has been pretty consistent – growing older is a privilege held by few and I feel blessed to be surrounded by such amazing friends and family as I do it. I might not love my grey hair, but I have embraced the fact that I get to see another year through.
Looking back at all that happened in the last decade I can say that I feel truly grateful for the journey I’ve taken. It hasn’t always been easy. I’ve faced dark nights of the soul that seemed to continue for months, I faced challenges, had my heart broken, learned to love, broken hearts, learned to forgive, learned to ask for forgiveness, learned to move on and let go. I have two degrees under my belt. I’ve travelled the world on my own and with friends. I’ve lost friends and loved ones, and found new people who have opened my life to wonderful experiences. Over the last 10 years I’ve grown so much as a person. I’m proud of who I’ve become and where I’ve been, and I’m excited to see what the next 10 years might bring.
One of the biggest lessons I have learned is learning to embrace where you stand, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. Where you are is perfect, and it’s the place from which you are setting up the rest of your life. You can always start again, right now. Even if yourlife doesn’t look the way you wanted it to, you can work in this moment, to build the future you desire. But you also need to let go of the need to make things happen the way you want. You can’t hold on to things the way they are, and you can’t waste your time lamenting that things aren’t the same as they were before either.
Life is never consistent, and holding on to where you have been and lamenting the yearsthat have passed by would be futile and wasteful. Instead of looking back and lamenting the end of my twenties, I feel grateful for how far I’ve come, and eager to see where I’m going to go from here. I have a whole new decade of adventures to have and places to explore.
So, to my twenties I say thank you. Thank you for making me the person I am today. For showing me the depth of strength I have, the courage I have and opening my heart to love and forgiveness. For bringing me on this spiritual journey to where I stand today. I’m not perfect, but I’m constantly evolving and learning. And now I have the privilege of a whole new decade of lessons, love, adventure, new friends and old to explore this magnificent world with.
And to my thirties – I am so looking forward to seeing what the next ten
years will bring!